ur Lord taught that there is only one lawful reason for divorce and remarriage: fornication (Matt. 19:9).  Since Jesus bound in the marriage relationship one man to one woman for one life with only one exception for divorce & remarriage*fornication, the notion that spousal abuse is a legitimate reason is false.  People may divorce for many reasons, but if they want to respect heaven's authority, they will believe that fornication is the only God-given basis for divorce and remarriage (besides the natural dissolution of the marriage bond in death see Romans 7:1ff). If a person has been deserted or departed for reasons other than this, they have two options available: remain unmarried or be reconciled to their mate (1 Cor. 7:11). 

  What about the situation where one hates his wife so much that he physically abuses her, and she, unable to endure it, leaves him for someone else? Can he then divorce her for "fornication" and be acceptable with God? Only a spiritual gymnast can create such a loophole to jump through! I assure you that God will not tolerate one who beats his wife into the arms of another man and then respect such a one for putting his wife away for "adultery."  Shall we ". . .do evil that good may come" (Rom. 3:8)? Tis a spooky thought to believe that the Lord would envision and accept sin as a means to a righteous end! The honest mind can see that the underlying "cause" or "reason" for such a divorce was not the fornication, but the hateful, treacherous spousal abuse which preceded it. In this case, there is no "innocent" party. The husband is certainly not innocent for he is guilty of sin by not loving his wife as himself. Had he cherished his wife the way the Lord does the church, she would not have sought affection elsewhere (Eph. 5:25-29). The wife is also guilty of sin, adultery.  God is a witness as to how people treat each other. Make no mistake about it, we will be held accountable for such behavior.  Judah wondered how God could not accept their offering anymore. the Lord informed them,

". . .Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. . .Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth" (see Mal. 2:13-16).

Men who beat their wives do not have "some problems" they have sin that damns the soul to a devil's hell! If the church becomes aware of such, they need to discipline the brother who is in error. Unless he repents he needs to be marked and withdrawn from. Beware brethren, lest we coddle sin! "You have wearied the Lord with your words. . .In that you say, 'Everyone who does evil is good in the sight of the Lord, and He delights in them.' " (Mal. 2:17).